Written by Tangible Triumphs Staff Member: William Herens
Co Founder & Co Owner of: Tangible Triumph
-Tangible Triumph Board Member, Short Story Writer, Realist, Poetry, Coach
You know, I honestly have such a hard time defining these two words on a daily basis. As I travel through my days, I try to be humble, happy and helpful. How can I make it through life being selfless, you only get taken advantage of right?
There was a time where I was extremely selfish and focused solely on my own well being as a survival tactic. Get in my way, and I will make sure I push you out. Broken relationships, white lies, burning everything down in a path towards total destruction. The extreme of selfish, that was me. Sleepless nights full of regrets, was a direct result of my selfishness. I knew I wasn’t a selfish person, but in the heat of the moment I couldn’t climb out because the feeling of hopelessness was so strong. If you can’t relate, picture this: dig yourself a hole 20 feet deep, put the soil 100 yards away and jump in. Am I selfish today? Absolutely I am. Here’s the difference, I’m selfishly selfless.
To be selfless, you need to be selfish. To be happy, you need to be sad. To be excited you need to be afraid. Somewhere inside there’s the drive for balance in each and everyone of us. Experiencing things at the extremes is not a bad thing as long as you learn from it. Give yourself time to be alone, time to think and meditate. Learn from what made it so extreme. Knowledge is power, I hate to be cliche but today it makes so much sense.
Today, I need to be selfish so that I can take care of myself. Mentally, Spiritually, and Physically. Well balanced in each aspect brings my being to a point where I can enter life and give myself to others freely. Breathe. Be aware. Use your five senses and feel the solid ground underneath your feet. Feel happy to be alive? You should. Take five minutes to yourself, in the morning or at night. Or both? The choice is yours. Appreciate who you are, there is only one and you will never be replicated.
Be selfish with your choice of friends, be selfish with what you do with your time. Find out what makes you happy, make it into a way of living and build your foundation around that. Be SELFISH so you can find the right path, the path that will lead you to ultimate happiness. Listen to your gut, intuition is real. What gives you butterflies? Jump into it!
I wish I had more to offer on this topic, and I will one day. Unfortunately I am a work in progress, we all are.
If no one told you they love you today, I love you.
Really wanted to read something like this ❤
I’m glad I could make a difference for you today Deboleena. That’s what I’m here for 😊. Keep your head held high, and strive for what you believe in.
Thank you soo much <3 Actually I was feeling a little down and this was just a boost to my mind. 🙂
In order to be at our very best we need to be selfish in making sure we remain Balanced. Awesome post and I really enjoyed reading your thoughts. Thank you for sharing them with us! <3
Amy, the pleasure is mine. Sharing my thoughts is a spiritual experience for me and I completely agree being selfish is important in our everyday lives.
So you understand the spirituality behind sharing thoughts especially those I “hear”. Beautiful!! 🙂 <3
Thank you, such a needed reminder! Well written 🙂
Thank you! Have a wonderful day and the positive feedback is such a beautiful thing to hear.
You are welcome!
a good start for the day
Awesome post…Loved this! An inspiration beyond words <3 🙂
Better to be mixed person))
Self aware…this is how I feel your topic relates. Knowing what is there and seeing more, not less. You needed this piece exactly as I have done in mine from time to time – everyone is deserving. Love and light!
Being selfish or selfless are bad.
If your compassion doesn’t include you, it’s incomplete.
If you are only for yourself, it’s selfishness.
So, compassion is meant to be practice appropriately.
Click the link below to know more about compassion.
we love you too …for writing for us… 🙂
😃 Here in your lines you have attempted to say that Selfish and Selfless are almost one.
I feel you have done justice and have proved it to be so.
If you can love me, I also can love you My Dear!