Written by Tangible Triumphs Staff Member: William Herens
Co Founder & Co Owner of: Tangible Triumph
-Tangible Triumph Board Member, Short Story Writer, Realist, Poetry, Coach
You know, I honestly have such a hard time defining these two words on a daily basis. As I travel through my days, I try to be humble, happy and helpful. How can I make it through life being selfless, you only get taken advantage of right?
There was a time where I was extremely selfish and focused solely on my own well being as a survival tactic. Get in my way, and I will make sure I push you out. Broken relationships, white lies, burning everything down in a path towards total destruction. The extreme of selfish, that was me. Sleepless nights full of regrets, was a direct result of my selfishness. I knew I wasn’t a selfish person, but in the heat of the moment I couldn’t climb out because the feeling of hopelessness was so strong. If you can’t relate, picture this: dig yourself a hole 20 feet deep, put the soil 100 yards away and jump in. Am I selfish today? Absolutely I am. Here’s the difference, I’m selfishly selfless.
To be selfless, you need to be selfish. To be happy, you need to be sad. To be excited you need to be afraid. Somewhere inside there’s the drive for balance in each and everyone of us. Experiencing things at the extremes is not a bad thing as long as you learn from it. Give yourself time to be alone, time to think and meditate. Learn from what made it so extreme. Knowledge is power, I hate to be cliche but today it makes so much sense.
Today, I need to be selfish so that I can take care of myself. Mentally, Spiritually, and Physically. Well balanced in each aspect brings my being to a point where I can enter life and give myself to others freely. Breathe. Be aware. Use your five senses and feel the solid ground underneath your feet. Feel happy to be alive? You should. Take five minutes to yourself, in the morning or at night. Or both? The choice is yours. Appreciate who you are, there is only one and you will never be replicated.
Be selfish with your choice of friends, be selfish with what you do with your time. Find out what makes you happy, make it into a way of living and build your foundation around that. Be SELFISH so you can find the right path, the path that will lead you to ultimate happiness. Listen to your gut, intuition is real. What gives you butterflies? Jump into it!
I wish I had more to offer on this topic, and I will one day. Unfortunately I am a work in progress, we all are.
If no one told you they love you today, I love you.